Why the law of attraction isn't working...

...and what "The Secret" didn't tell us!

If you are a spiritual person or interested in the ever giving pursuit of self-growth, then chances are you are in to the law of attraction. The belief that what you put out in to the world, what you visualize, affirm and believe, comes back to you. That you are the creator of your world.

I remember long before The Secret, reading about the great masters of manifestation, in amazement and feeling inspired to live my life as an intentional being. It took me a long time before I could virtually eradicate negativity but I started to see it working.

Then the Secret came a long and blew our minds, it seems glorious, simplistic and quite awe inspiring. However watching it I always felt like they missed something out, for a long time I couldn’t figure out what it was.

My experience of the Law of attraction seemed somewhat hit and miss, sometimes it worked, other times it didn’t. People said to me “The universe knows what is for your highest good, so if it didn’t manifest it wasn’t right for you” this didn't sit right with me. I wanted to truly be that magnificent creator and I was going to find out why it didn't always work!

When it worked it was so obviously "intention" but when it didn’t I questioned the entire thing.

It seemed like for some reason I could manifest the things I didn’t really care about, but the stuff I really wanted never showed up, how maddening!

Finally it hit me, that was the answer! “I could manifest the things I didn’t care about but not the things I really did care about”…think about that one.

Now everyone who knows my teachings well, knows that I always talk about “letting go” but this realization gave me further insight as to why it is so important and meaningful

I remembered something I had read years ago by Deepak Chopra, about the law of detachment, and suddenly it hit me, the law of detachment is the missing piece of the law of attraction puzzle. The reason many people give up believing the law of attraction didn’t work, or after having mixed results, questioning its actual power. This law was never mentioned in the secret. The people involved always claimed that much had been edited from the film, but it almost seemed like a gimmick to sell more LOA programs.

The Law of Detachment:"This law says that in order to acquire anything in the physical universe, you have to relinquish your attachment to it. This doesn’t mean you give up the intention to create your desire. You give up your attachment to the result. This is a very powerful thing to do. The moment you relinquish your attachment to the result, combining one-pointed intention with detachment at the same time, you will have that which you desire. Anything you want can be acquired through detachment, because detachment is based on the unquestioning belief in the power of your true Self. Attachment comes from poverty consciousness, because attachment is always to symbols. Detachment is synonymous with wealth consciousness, because with detachment there is freedom to create. True wealth consciousness is the ability to have anything you want, anytime you want, and with least effort. To be grounded in this experience you have to be grounded in the wisdom of uncertainty. In this uncertainty you will find the freedom to create anything you want."

From The seven spiritual laws of success, by Deepak Chopra

This is why I was able to manifest the things I didn't feel as passionate about. We are told to visualize, to focus on our intention. But in doing so it is easy to fixate, to become impatient, to allow doubt to creep in. So I changed my approach to manifestation it instead became

Intention > Visualise> be grateful> detach > receive> Be grateful 

What do you know? It began to work! Somehow despite having a copy of the 7 spiritual laws hanging around for years, I hadn't connected the dots. I had always questioned why even when I was intensely focused, what I wanted didn't manifest.

I believe the reason for this is that when we overly focus, fixate, we are actually creating resistance, even “hope” becomes negative, because hope is not complete and unwaivering trust that our desires will be realized. It is so easy to swing back in to a place of questioning,doubt or fear. Negative energy that actually cancels our desires from manifesting.

Which means it really is as simple, as wanting it but not wanting it too badly.
These rules apply to every area of your life, love, money, success, anything you can imagine!

I now believe that the Law of Detachment is as essential as the Law of Attraction when manifesting your hearts desire.

My recommendation would be that if you desire something, focus on it deeply for 5 minutes a day, trust that it will happen and then just let it go.