(This is well intentioned advice, but you will find that men get burnt out by "emotional dialogue" very quickly.)
We might find ourselves dismayed that the harder we try the worse things become. It can make us feel like a failure. Going in to "Miss fix it mode" will often leave you feeling more hopeless than ever.
My dear if you are finding your love life to be full of strife, or your relationship despite the strong connection, seems to never run smoothly. It is likely that you want it too much.
Yes, seriously.
When we try too hard to fix things, it starts to feel unnatural or controlled. In contrast to that natural association we had in the beginning that seemed to take no effort, now we are putting our full energy in to making something work and somehow that happy outcome only slips further away.
Like a rainbow, if you chase it, it eludes you, but if you stop and marvel at its beauty you can appreciate it fully without tiring yourself out.
Some times what we really need to do is let go
Take a step back, shift your focus back to you and allow events to follow a natural course, when we hold on tighter or try to manoeuvre situations in our favor we are coming from a place of fear.
To let go is to trust in ourselves, to trust in the universe to always bring us what we need at the right time.
Once in a while things will fall apart as you learn to let go, the man you were trying to make it work with may walk away, but if your efforts were the only thing holding up the relationship then it probably wasn't worth having.
In most cases you will see an almost instant change in people, you will see them automatically gravitate towards you. Sensing the shift in your energy and wanting to be closer to you. I am not saying that letting go is an easy thing to learn, and in itself it doesn't necessarily change the outcome, only your attachment to it. But it may actually change your path in a positive way.
Imagine there was a power cable to your anxiety and panicked thoughts, what would happen if you simply unplugged it? ditching chaos, frustration and your tireless efforts to control a situation, and instead you just breathe. You would certainly suffer less, that's for sure.
It's not that you stop caring about something, it's just that you no longer allow the situation to own you.
Out of all the lessons I have learnt in my life, Letting go has been the most transforming. It has brought harmony to my world in a way that I could have only dreamed of back when I was “clinging”
Now I am on the “Let go” emotional diet for life, try it…soon you will swear by it too.
"Letting go doesn't mean that you don't care about someone anymore. It's just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”
Affirmation "I release you (person/situation) with love and light, thank you!"
